Relationships

Have you ever been in a relationship, and just sat back in utter confusion? To try and figure it out would possibly lead to a brain aneurysm. What I don't understand is if you try and talk to someone about something they are doing that might be bothering you and all you hear is everything that you do wrong, like ok does that justify everything??

Of course people aren't perfect, but it seems like in relationships we just go back to preschool, with the "well you did it first!" or "I wouldn't if you didn't!" WTF is that? Like when does all the communication skills just disappear and we resort to fighting, biting and not sharing???

I am just a little confused about this.... I am going to try and figure it out..... When I have an answer I will be glad to share!!